Answer it with kindness

Notice, just for now, the tone of it.

Yesterday we listened for the harsh little voice, the one that calls you names over nothing. Today we practice answering it.

Not arguing with it. Not proving it wrong with a list of everything you have accomplished.

Just answering it the way you would answer a friend who said the same cruel thing about herself.

Here is your invitation. The next time you catch a harsh thought, pause and ask one question: what would I say to someone I love who said this about herself?

You already know the answer. You have said it a hundred times to other women.

Something like: you are being too hard on yourself, anyone would have done the same. Now turn it around and aim it inward.

Silently is fine. Under your breath is fine.

It will feel awkward, maybe even false, the first few times. That is not a sign it is wrong, but a sign the kindness is unfamiliar.

You are not trying to believe it yet. You are just trying it on, the way you would try on a coat you are not sure suits you.

The gentle voice is not weaker than the harsh one. It is simply one you have had less practice using.

Today, once, use it.

Today you have permission to speak to yourself with the gentleness you have always saved for everyone else.

What would change if I spoke to myself the way I speak to the people I love?

See you tomorrow.