The irritation you keep apologizing for

Tired. Stressed. Overwhelmed. Hormonal, maybe, if you have been unlucky enough to be told that.

Underneath the acceptable words there is something with more heat in it. A flare when someone asks you for one more thing, a flat hard moment when you realize nobody is going to notice what it cost you.

And the instant it rises, you manage it. You breathe, you reframe, you remind yourself that everyone is doing their best and that you are lucky, actually, and what kind of person feels this way.

That last one is the voice we listened for in July, doing a different job.

So it gets pushed down and comes back later as a headache, or a snapped sentence you apologize for twice, or a long stretch of feeling nothing much at all.

Here is what I want to say about that. Anger is not a character flaw in a woman who has been over-relied on for twenty years.

It is not proof that you are ungrateful or difficult or turning into someone unkind. It is information, and it is remarkably accurate information about where your limits have been crossed.

This celebrity dermatologist shares a “Youthful Eyes” technique that has been practiced amongst Korean women for centuries…

She said it’s like 20 years of eye bags wiped away from here tired-looking eyes in just 5 minutes 😍

The results are almost instant and more permanent than getting injections or using any other products out there. – even the Mayo Clinic confirms it here!

Just imagine the results you’ll get if you keep on doing this every day!

Here is a breakdown of the “Youthful Eyes” technique ← for you to try out.

The women I have known who seem serene about everything are usually not serene. They have simply gotten efficient at putting the anger somewhere.

The cost of storing it is high. It takes energy to hold down, and it leaks out sideways at the people you least want to receive it.

So here is your permission, and it arrives with no plan attached. You are allowed to be angry, privately, without doing anything about it and without apologizing for it.

You are not required to forgive anyone this afternoon, and you do not have to be the bigger person before dinner.

You can simply sit with the fact that something in you is furious about how much you have carried, and that this is fair. Let it be true for an hour without arguing with it.

Anger is not the opposite of love. Very often it is what love looks like when it has been taken for granted for a long time.

To the woman who learned that anger was unbecoming: I am sorry you had to swallow so much of it so young, and that you got so good at it. It cost you more than anyone noticed. You are allowed to feel it now, all of it, without turning it into anything at all.

See you tomorrow.